Calibrating your self assessment July 30, 2007Posted by rickbron in Bronder On People, Self assessments.
Self improvement begins with self assessment. Most people are not very effective at self assessment. They do not perceive themselves like others perceive them. We tend to overestimate our skill or to underrate ourselves. The Big Dogz know how to calibrate their self assessment. Over time, the Big Dogz are very accurate with their self assessments. Here’s how to develop outstanding self assessment skills.
- Make a copy of the self assessment before you begin.
- Take the self assessment
- Select three people using this criteria:
- They are in the same environment as you. If you want to know how you are at work, then select three people from work. If you want to know how you are outside of work, then select three people from that environment. Having someone from your social club provide an assessment is not useful for how you are at work.
- These are people you can trust to give you an honest assessment.
- Do not pick people who will flatter you — your mom is not on the list!
- Do not pick people who will belittle you — your mom is not on the list!
- Give the assessment to these three people and ask them to assess you.
- When they return the assessment, you say two words, “Thank You.” Do not tell them they are wrong or don’t understand you.
- Compare the assessment of the three people to your assessment:
- If all three agree with you, you are an effective self assessor.
- If one of them disagrees with you, this is called an opinion and is nothing to be seriously concerned about. Your assessment skills are generally effective. Of course if the difference is a large one, you may want to examine your actions with this person.
- If two of them disagree with you, this is called a trend and is something to be seriously concerned about. Your self assessment skills are lacking and you need to take the self assessment again with a more open mind about yourself.
- If all three of them disagree with you, this is called a fact! You have been kidding yourself and have placed a major roadblock in front of your self improvement effort.
Repeat this process for all self assessment you do. You will find that your skills as a self assessor will be quite good. You will become accurate in determining how you come across to others. Being able to do an accurate self assessment can help you resolve those pesky “personality conflicts” you may be having. You may think you are an effective communicator while everyone around you thinks you are the worst communicator. I have attached a quick communications skills self assessment. Use the self assessment calibration process above to see how close you are.